Rachel and Rob Samulack, along with their son Gabriel, were absolutely thrilled to accept a $500 donation to Aaron's Butterfly Run Ottawa/Gatineau from TD Canada Trust!
Alison Nobbs, the bank manager at the Ottawa Kilborn branch (now relocated to Billings Bridge), presented the cheque to Rachel and Rob. Coincidentally, Anne Jones, a registered nurse from Roger Neilson House also happened to be at the bank and agreed to take a photo as well!
Thank you to TD Canada Trust for supporting parents facing pregnancy or infant loss and also for supporting the Children's Hospital of Eastern Ontario (CHEO)!
You might recall one of our posts before Father's Day, where we spoke about Kelly Farley, who is a published author of Grieving Dads: to the Brink and Back.
Kelly will be joining the Love & Loss Project on Sunday July 25 at 8 PM to talk more about the male experience of grief and the 2 years that he spent interviewing other men about their experiences of miscarriage, pregnancy and child loss.
So mark this on your calendars because you are all invited to join in the discussion with the Love & Loss Project and Grieving Dads on Sunday July 25th at 8 PM here.
Today marks one year since Rachel and Rob Samulack's son Aaron was born and passed away.
Today, Rachel shares with us a letter she wrote to Aaron that she left with him during his internment and a follow-up letter she wrote to him this year in honour of his birthday on June 19, 2017.
Thank you Rachel for sharing such personal and heartfelt messages, and for everything you do to raise awareness about perinatal loss and support others who are experiencing something similar.
Rachel and Rob Samulack chose to coordinate Aaron's Butterfly Run Ottawa/Gatineau in honour of baby Aaron and in support of all other individuals and families who've experienced loss of a pregnancy, loss of an infant, or infertility. The Run will happen on Saturday October 14, 2017 during pregnancy and infant loss awareness month.
Rachel and Rob Samulack discussed organizing a walk in Ottawa for pregnancy and infant loss awareness after the loss of their son Aaron 100 minutes after birth on June 19, 2016 and the loss of their first pregnancy at 10 weeks in 2013.
Rachel says "the goal was to have it be a community walk in Old Ottawa South from Sunnyside Wesleyan Church. We would walk with our friends and family members in October 2017 for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month. We asked a couple of friends who had also experienced this type of loss if they would be interested in organizing this type of event, they answered with a resounding yes. Our plan was to have a low key event... we would just tell people what time to show up and Rob and I would provide a couple of pizzas. We would walk to celebrate the lives of all of our children, those who are with us on earth and those who are with us in spirit. It was supposed to be something easy to organize."
Fast forward to October 2016. Rachel found out about The Butterfly Run Quinte while sharing Aaron’s story on the Pregnancy and Infant Loss (PAIL) Network website. The run was organized to raise awareness about pregnancy and infant loss by bereaved moms Loralee, Beth and Barb in Belleville, Ontario. They received such an outpouring of support from their community. They raised over $75,000 for pregnancy and infant loss programs and resources in Quinte in their inaugural year of the run in 2016. And in 2017, Quinte hosted their second run and Peterborough, Ontario hosted their first! After hearing about the other Butterfly Runs, Aaron’s Butterfly Run Ottawa/Gatineau was created in January 2017. This year, the Butterfly Run Quinte raised over $100,000 for pregnancy and infant loss resources in Quinte and Rachel was able to participate in the run. It was quite the event to behold. It was so well organized and amazing to see the community rallying behind such an amazing cause.
The organizing committee for Aaron's Butterfly Run decided to raise funds in 2017 for Roger Neilson House and we have been asked several times why we chose to have the funds go there. While there are other fundraising events for Roger Neilson House, the Perinatal Hospice and Perinatal Loss Support Group are one of only a handful of Perinatal Hospice and Perinatal Loss Support Groups in Canada. The Perinatal Hospice and the Perinatal Loss Support Group are services that have been offered since 2007 at Roger Neilson House at no cost for parents in Ottawa/Gatineau.
Perinatal hospice (or perinatal palliative care) supports individuals and families who receive a life-limiting or life-ending diagnosis while pregnant by helping them plan for the baby’s birth, making preliminary medical decisions about care for the baby after delivery, providing emotional support for the individual/family, and assisting with memory-making such as photography. Palliative care follows the baby’s lead and can also include medical treatments to improve the baby’s life during pregnancy and after birth.
The Perinatal hospice program first took place at Roger Neilson House in 2007 when a baby girl, known by her parents to have a chromosomal abnormality, was born with a life-limiting diagnosis and an expectation of death in early infancy. This family, referred to the palliative care team at Roger Neilson House, was cared for over months, in hospital, hospice and at home. She died in her parents arms on Christmas Eve. Her parents who had struggled in isolation during their pregnancy after receiving the devastating news could only say “we wish we had known about your program earlier”. 55 families have been referred through the Perinatal Hospice program since 2007. As one of the families who have benefited immensely from this program, Rob and Rachel wanted to find a way to say thank you to the team at Roger Neilson House for their ongoing support. Aaron’s Butterfly Run Ottawa/Gatineau is a labour of love.
The Perinatal Loss Parent Bereavement Support Group is available to parents who have lost an infant to a stillbirth (over 20 weeks gestation), neonatal death up to the first 28 days of life, or medical termination or induction where a palliative diagnosis/pregnancy existed for the infant/mother. The group is facilitated by two Registered Social Work staff and takes place over eight weeks. The Perinatal Hospice and Perinatal Loss Bereavement Support groups have been offered without any additional budgetary support. The palliative care team provides care activities over many weeks and months and is available around the clock, 7 days a week, awaiting the birth of their precious patients and the professional work that is offered graciously often in the middle of the night to new parents, siblings and families. Roger Neilson House also holds events throughout the year to support parents - they offer yoga classes once a month and drop-in coffee sessions. The support that is offered by this team is truly amazing and we are so blessed to have a program like this in our community, available for families/individuals who need it.
Rachel comments: "I’ll be honest. I would much rather be planning a first birthday party for Aaron than be organizing Aaron’s Butterfly Run. There are days where it is so hard to share our story. It’s still so fresh. There are still some days when I hide in the washroom and cry. Rob and I couldn’t have made it through the last year and a half without our amazing network of friends, family members and the team at Roger Neilson House. Our network has kept us fed, loved and supported both physically and emotionally. The run would not be happening without our amazing organizing committee. They have spent hours organizing the Film Night, Silent Auction, Paint Nite, and meeting to discuss logistics for the actual run. A big thank you to all of our supporters as Aaron’s Butterfly Run raises awareness for pregnancy and infant loss resources and programs in Ottawa/Gatineau."
"Being a bereaved parent is not easy. It’s isolating and people are uncomfortable talking about it. Both sets of my grandparents lost children, one at ten days old and the other one as a toddler. One of my grandmothers also experienced multiple pregnancy losses and one of my aunts experienced a stillbirth. When they experienced their losses, there were no resources available to them and it’s something that was swept under the carpet. All of the members of our organizing committee have been affected by pregnancy and infant loss is some way. Unfortunately, pregnancy and infant loss happens. Aaron’s Butterfly Run is more than a fundraiser for Roger Neilson House. It’s a space for bereaved parents to find the resources and community that they so desperately need in the days and years that follow their loss(es). We are so blessed to have access to a place like Roger Neilson House and Rob and I are truly honored to be able to share Aaron’s story with anyone who is willing to listen. We can only hope that we have provided support and resources to others who will need it in the future."
As Aaron’s birthday approaches, Rob and Rachel have created "Team Aaron" as part of Aaron's Butterfly Run Ottawa/Gatineau to raise funds for the Perinatal Hospice and Perinatal Loss Support Group at Roger Neilson House. You could support Team Aaron here: https://osf.akaraisin.com/pledge/Participant/Home.aspx?seid=14130&mid=9&pid=3366988
Please consider registering for the run on Saturday, October 14th 2017 or donating in memory of a butterfly baby: www.butterflyrunottawa.ca/sign-up
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Father's Day is coming up on Sunday June 18th, 2017. To all the bereaved fathers, we're thinking of you.
In advance of that, we wanted to share with you a recent article written by the Love & Loss Project about "Guys and Grief" - the Love & Loss Project shares 3 tips for supporting bereaved fathers.
To come up with these 3 tips, the Love & Loss Project interviewed Mr. Kelly Farley, author of Grieving Dads: to the Brink and Back. After experiencing 2 of his own losses through miscarriage, Kelly interviewed almost 1,000 other bereaved fathers to better understand the male experience of grief.
Thank you to the Love & Loss Project and Grieving Dads for raising awareness about pregnancy and infant loss, and not forgetting about the male experience.
Sparkling conversation, splashes of paint, and savouring sweet treats were the perfect combination for a night out on Monday, June 12th, 2017! It was also an opportunity to support the estimated one in four women in Ottawa/Gatineau who have or will experience pregnancy or infant loss.
Thank you to everyone who joined us for this sold-out event. From your support, we were able to raise $600 to directly support the cost of the Run. We're fundraising to support the cost of the Run itself (to cover the cost of things like race kits), because 100% of your registration to the Run on October 14th will go directly to Roger Neilson House, a program of the Children's Hospital of Eastern Ontario (CHEO).
Thank you to our awesome instructor, Ena Lucia Mariaca, who led us through a very fun evening of painting! Thank you also to Oh So Good Dessert and Coffee House at 261 Richmond Road where in between brush strokes, were were able to nibble on our favourite goodies from their wide selection of delicious desserts!
Yesterday, our friends at "Mom Friends" shared a blog post about their participation in our Silent Auction and the 100In1Day festival. We so very much appreciate businesses and community members who've adamantly supported our cause to raise awareness and proceeds for pregnancy loss, infant loss and infertility in Ottawa and Gatineau. Thank you Mom Friends!
Also, take a minute to check out the important work they do in our community - they provide postpartum care kits to new moms.
You might remember our previous post, where Margaret, one of the volunteers for Aaron's Butterfly Run Ottawa/Gatineau, shared the letter she wrote to her son Matthew, who was stillborn at 26 weeks. Margaret also experienced two first trimester miscarriages before her last child was born.
Margaret shared with us some more of her thoughts around miscarriage and infant loss (also known as perinatal loss), which she summarizes as "the hardest question" - Read more below...
Thank you Margaret, for sharing your thoughts on perinatal loss.
Experiencing the loss of pregnancy, a baby or a child is a devastating and life-altering experience, to say the least. As awful as the journey is, know that you are not alone and there are a variety of resources available to support you.
One of the great resources that recently came to our attention is The Love & Loss Project. The Love & Loss Project is a comfort and inspiration station for people who have lost a baby, pregnancy or child.
April offers a variety of services to support those experiencing perinatal loss, including a Baby Loss Survival Guide.
Thank you April for donating to our Silent Auction in support of Aaron's Butterfly Run Ottawa/Gatineau! If you're interested in the Baby Loss Survival Guide, you can have a chance to bid on it during our online, Facebook-based, Silent Auction June 2-3, 2017.
For other perinatal loss and infertility support resources, check out our Resources page.
Don't forget! Our Silent Auction is coming up quickly!
Join our Silent Auction Facebook group to see all the items up for grabs! We have over $7,000 worth of items! All of the proceeds raised from the Auction will directly support Aaron's Butterfly Run Ottawa/Gatineau!
All the items will be announced on Thursday June 1st.
The Auction will officially open on Friday June 2nd at 9 AM and close on Saturday June 3rd at 9 PM.
Here's how the Auction will work...